8+ things to consider before marrying that person

Being a pastor doesn’t make me an expert on marriage. I didn’t morph into a wise old sage when I was ordained, either. Nevertheless, people ask me all the time for advice about how to pick the right person to marry.

So I decided to share some of the ways I tend to answer that question. I’m just spit-ballin’ here so the list is incomplete and in no particular order.

  1. You don’t actually have to pick one. I Cor 7:8-9
  2. If they can’t control their tongue, they can’t control anything else! James 3:2
  3. Marry your friend. For the love, marry your friend!
  4. The best indicator of future behavior is past behavior.
  5. Beauty is fleeting. Integrity ain’t. Proverbs 31:30
  6. I don’t care how hot they are, there’s NOTHING sexy about someone you don’t get along with!
  7. If they aren’t helping you grow spiritually now, marrying them won’t change that.
  8. Don’t marry crazy. Look me in the eye: DON’T  – MARRY  – CRAZY!

One more thing…

2 Corinthians 6:14 Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?

Christians shouldn’t marry non-Christians, so there’s that. But there’s more to pull from this text. A yoke is what joins two animals together so that they can share the burden of pulling a weight. It’s important to yoke animals of relatively equal strength and size, or the big strong one will end up doing all of the work, and they’ll have a hard time moving in a straight line. So the dude putting a yoke on two animals has to ask himself more than, “Are they the same species?” Think about it.

Let’s fire up the comments and make this a group project! What could/should be added to the list?

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