Being a pastor doesn’t make me an expert on marriage. I didn’t morph into a wise old sage when I was ordained, either. Nevertheless, people ask me all the time for advice about how to pick the right person to marry.
So I decided to share some of the ways I tend to answer that question. I’m just spit-ballin’ here so the list is incomplete and in no particular order.
- You don’t actually have to pick one. I Cor 7:8-9
- If they can’t control their tongue, they can’t control anything else! James 3:2
- Marry your friend. For the love, marry your friend!
- The best indicator of future behavior is past behavior.
- Beauty is fleeting. Integrity ain’t. Proverbs 31:30
- I don’t care how hot they are, there’s NOTHING sexy about someone you don’t get along with!
- If they aren’t helping you grow spiritually now, marrying them won’t change that.
- Don’t marry crazy. Look me in the eye: DON’T – MARRY – CRAZY!
One more thing…
2 Corinthians 6:14 Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?
Christians shouldn’t marry non-Christians, so there’s that. But there’s more to pull from this text. A yoke is what joins two animals together so that they can share the burden of pulling a weight. It’s important to yoke animals of relatively equal strength and size, or the big strong one will end up doing all of the work, and they’ll have a hard time moving in a straight line. So the dude putting a yoke on two animals has to ask himself more than, “Are they the same species?” Think about it.
Let’s fire up the comments and make this a group project! What could/should be added to the list?