If I were gay, I’d just want to be left alone.

As a married heterosexual, no one outside of my closest and most trusted circle of friends would feel inclined to quiz me about my sex life. That’s as it should be. Homosexuals don’t have that luxury. Controversy and unsolicited opinions come standard. It’s unfortunate.

As a Christian, I must live by the golden rule:

Luke 6:31 And as you wish that others would do to you, do so to them.

The golden rule says, “treat people the way you’d like to be treated.” Well, if I were gay, I’d just want to be left alone. That’s how I would like to be treated. So is that the end of it? Is that the sum of the Christian response?

It’s not that simple. To be honest, I sometimes wish that it was.

However, I believe that God has something better for practicing homosexuals. I understand how arrogant that sounds, I really do. But I would never make a statement like that on my own authority. I believe that God has said that he has something better.

The golden rule says, “treat people the way you’d like to be treated.” Well, if I were missing out on something better, even if I felt okay about the way things were, I would want somebody to tell me. That’s how I’d like to be treated.

If I say that I love homosexuals (and I do), and if I say that God loves homosexuals (and he does), then my response has to be something other than leaving them alone. 

I hope that my homosexual friends understand that if anyone believes as I do, then not being fully accepting of the behavior is not only the most loving choice, it’s the only loving choice.

When I became a pastor I thought,

“well, that’s that…none of my gay friends will ever talk to me again.”

The exact opposite has been true. I realize now how judgmental that assumption was.

I consistently struggle with how to speak I what I believe is the truth in love. I have discovered, however, that the heartfelt attempt has been sufficient in what have been many kind, thoughtful, and mutually respectful conversations with my homosexual friends.

I feel no judgment, no disgust, no ill-will and no superiority. I feel friendship, love, and hope. Hope for something better.

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